Hallelujah Sister – I feel for you! I’m 34H and am size 4 on the bottom. If I tuck in and/or belt my top half looks HUGE in contrast and if I don’t tuck in my chest is a shelf for the fabric. So I half-tuck or French tuck and am praying that they become classic and not “2017.”

Search “t-shirt modification” on YouTube. My favorite mod is to cut the sides and tie knots. With some help, you can tie each knot while you’re wearing the shirt so it follows your shape. Just remember to leave them loose enough to be able to get the shirt off. LOL. Practice on a throwaway shirt first to figure out how many knots – a few knots each side shows some skin between knots, more knots = less skin.
Another fix is to cut the sleeves and tie them in knots/bows and do one matching knots/bows at the bottom of the t-shirt – it creates a ruched look.

I would at least wear a full brief that tucks your tummy. For more tucking and a smooth line, you may consider a shaper like this one https://amzn.to/2KAIliX More tips on shape wear in this article https://40plusstyle.com/shapewear-do-women-over-40-need-it/

You can find details on her blog at https://grownandcurvywoman.com/2018/09/21/farewell-to-summer-with-eshakti/ It’s from Eshakti.

Where can I find the gorgeous red/pink print dress Georgette is wearing? I looked on her blog, but couldn’t find it. Thanks!

It all depends on the kind of top. If you top is a bit more structured or has a waist it may be better. The length of the top also makes a real difference.
You may want to try semi tucking with creates an asymmetrical vertical line. You have to find a way to add more structure to your top. You can play with belts also and see if that is helpful to you. You may like to go https://nofearoffashion.com by my friend Greetje for more inspiration. She has a large bust but has learned how to dress for it.

Yes you’re totally right – it’s all about dressing for your own bodyshape and taking the bits of advice which work for you!

When I was a 34KK I wore Decent Exposures as I couldn’t get a payment out to the Polish brand that actually makes wired bras in that size. Now that I’m back down to a 34H post reduction I need to figure out my new size in that brand. At my largest their 34L should have fit. However their 32H worked better for me. Now that bra is too large so I need to down size again. I also want to try Bra 30 and Breast Nest. According to reviews on Amazon and on Hourglassy blog Bra 30 lifts and supports via compression and there is under bust sweat. Breast Nest leaves them looking droopy but no under bust sweat. Seems like a fair trade off to me as that’s the bane of my existence when it’s hot. Unlike the rest of my body that area itches and rashes. Also it pretty permanently stinks in the Summer. Probably would only wear it around the house though and wear the Decent Exposures and Bra 30 outside. I’d just have to apply cornstarch to eliminate the moisture. In a pinch though Genie type bras worked while I was waiting for all my swelling to go down. They however don’t work very well in the heat. I’m not happy with my size either. I plan to get another reduction to hopefully lose another 5 or ideally 7 inches to get back to a 34D which is the size that balances with my hips.